our new baby

FIRSTLY, check out my giveaway over at Our Happily Ever After!
And then, stick around for a bit over there, because Alli is awesome and so so so sweet.
Plus, she recognized my husband as a hunk, which totally made my day!
My apologies for my last, heavy, and maybe even uncomfortable post.
It was kind of a vent thing about what I need to work on and how I wanna handle it.
Ha... C'est la vie!
( I have NO idea if I spelled that correctly..)
Last, but not least:
To the horror, understanding, and happiness of our various friends...
I don't know why, but I SO am.
But having a baby right now isn't really in our plans...
I told Tay I would settle for a puppy! But our Landlord told us, that wasn't allowed.
I can have a poopy, vomit, adorable baby, but not a poopy adorable puppy..according to our leasing contract.
What does a baby hungry, puppyless, babyless girl to do?
Mini Babies!
In the form of 3 Goldfish, a female Betta, and a Crab. 
(Left- Iguana Ice Bro, Right-Jacob and Edward)
(Krabby! Named after the heroic Pokemon!)
Our betta, Bella, is too camera shy...so :(

I love these little guys already!
I really do!
...they might be freezing since our heaters don't work.
Although, we do kind of  have a solution for that...

:) Hit me up any time! <3

PS: Any ideas or suggestions for my blog's background? 


bad talk

Lemme start out by saying this:
I bad talk.
Well, everyone does. Most everyone anyway.
Bad talk, gossip, back biting, whatever, it's all kind of fun and enjoyable, and all kind of really mean.
Lately, I've been thinking about it a lot. I don't think I'm one to constantly gossip, but I do gossip on occasion. I think most people do too..
The question is...how do I stop?
It's easier to have the mentality of "treat everyone like they are going through their worst trial," and "don't judge a book by a cover," when the "everyone" and the "book" our strangers or acquaintances.
It gets harder to not talk bad about the people we actually know and are close to.
Because then we have the justification of:
I'm not gossiping, I'm just stating facts about people I know.
But you know what? I think that's kind of stupid.
These are rules that I randomly thought of that I think REALLY makes something not gossip.

1. Would I say this to their face?
Most of us say "I'm not saying anything I wouldn't say to their face," but...really? Think about it. Would you say it the same exact way to them in person, as to some other person without them around.Would you really say "Margret, you are a dirt bag that sleeps around and is completely dishonest," to a "friend" or coworker? If so, then back biting might not be your biggest problem... So, would you say it to their face? Would you say EXACTLY the same thing to their face?

2.Is this really my business?
Much too often we think we have a right to talk about someone else because they are our cousin, or close friend, or even sibling, but that isn't always the case. Who someone is dating, or hanging out with, or what someone is doing, may be a concern for you, and if so, tell them and LET IT BE! It is no longer your business. You kind of have to say your peace and let them figure it out. Don't keep talking about it with your friends, don't keep talking about it with your family, just pray for them, talk to them, and let it be. There's no need to add yourself and others into business that you are really unwelcome in. People often are going through things that you don't fully understand, maybe they don't tell you everything. Just use your best judgement to decide if you really need to be talking about their situation. 

3.Is what I'm saying true?
I heard from a guy who heard from a guy is not the best way to get facts and share them as undeniable truths. Heck, even hearing from someone they are really close to doesn't make it at all true. You have to hear it from them. And remember, did they ask you to keep this confidential? Would common sense have you keep this confidential?

And the biggest and most important rule is

4.True or untrue, would what I'm saying hurt them if they could hear this conversation right now?
Everyone needs constructive criticism, but not everyone needs to be hurt in the process. I highly doubt that when we do gossip, we honestly want to hurt someone. And if so, well, that's another topic. Imagine that person right there beside you, how would they feel? How would you feel about their reaction? Is what your saying necessary?

It is certainly not easy to remember all these when talking to a friend about that girl you hate, or that guy you think is dumb, or that person you think is making a bad decision, or even that family member who is doing something wrong, but not gossiping really does make you feel better.

~If you gossip a lot in front of people, frankly, no one wants to be your friend. Not bad talking = more friends.
~Treating people with respect helps you get respect. Not bad talking = respect.
~ Gossiping always finds a way to get back to you in the end. Not bad talking = no sticky/dumb situations.
~Religiously, if we want to become perfect, bad talking has GOT to go! Not bad talking = closer to heaven :)
Not bad talking = happy.
My point is this (even though it may seem like I've had 1,00 points by now): We all want to be happy. The best way to get there is to love. Not bother with silly things that may hurt people, but to fill our lives, our relationships, and our conversations with love. There is NO downside to that.  i guarantee it.


fridays letters

Dear Husband,
I know everyone writes their first letter to their husbands in their "friday letters," (their 3 x!) BUT I want you to know that I am really really proud of you and what you have done and accomplished the last couple of days. I love you!

Dear Work,
You are not fair to me. I will continue to suck up all this unfairness, but be warned: our relationship is going nowhere, and I'm gonna leave you. You're not even hot.

Dear Tootsie,
Thank you for somehow lasting for 3 years now as a little Ford Escort with a cord hanging out. You were only $500, and worth every penny. Keep it up!

Dear Butt,
Thank you for being totally hawt! I feel like you will be sexy no matter how big I get! And that is awesome!

Dear Messy House,
Yes...I neglect you. I do love you, but why are you so much work?

Dear Outfit Yesterday,
I liked you!!!! So did 7 instagram friends...and that's a big deal for me...er us.

Dear Babies,
....I'm hungry for you. To have! NOT eat...

Dear Mommy,
Have fun in Oklahoma! I think it will be just wonderful for you :) but I will still miss you :/



i'm not fat

My appearance has always been a big deal for me.
Way. Too. Big.
I've been known to really obsess about the way that I look, it's quite unhealthy.
BUT I have gained weight. For real.
I think I might finally be able to be happy when I'm healthy, and not "Bleghhhhhhhhhh I'm fat."
I do say that though, and Tay does NOT like it! 
Anyway, I want to be healthy now! I want to like my appearance! I really really want to!
So, my ideas?
1. While I lose weight, buy clothes that fit me now! That way, I won't be so down every single time I get dressed and things don't fit :/
2. Eat better and workout!
3.Change my mindset. Stop saying "I'M SO FAT" all the time, and enjoy me!

That being said, I still have gained weight.
I really liked my body just a little bit smaller.
I'm not fat.
But I'd like to be a little bit smaller, because I know I liked that!
And all my cute clothes are that size...

But I need your help and support!!
Does anyone know good healthy recipes or food to eat?
Good exercises?
Things that work to make you healthy and happy???

And now, without further ado, I present to you my official before photos:

I'm not going to weigh myself...I think I would absolutely obsess over that.
I just want to be healthy!

PS: My favicon changed!! Do you liiiike it?
PPS: Thank you guys so much for all the nice things you said on my last post! I'm excited to keep getting my blog awesome looking! :)


home sweet home

I love our home!
Slowly it has become more and more us!
...if that makes sense. ;)
We can't afford all the home accents we want right now (curtains, a table with not broken chairs haha!), but because of the generosity of loved ones, we have a very wonderful home!!!
Wanna see?
I will show you!
(if you don't care to see...then...stop reading?)
(I don't know why I just put that..)
 I love our red accent wall!!! Which is good...cause we're not allowed to change it.. :)
We don't have a lot of storage space, so we put our shoes on this little book shelf.
 I love our bed! The mismatched pillows are vintage, right? ;D
My friend, Jess, made this table!!! Crazy right?? I love it!
 I love my blue teapot :) Maybe I should have put the dishes away  before taking a picture...
My blog remodeling is almost done! 
I'm making new buttons and things??
What do you guys think?
My next post will be more thought provoking, I hope!  haha :)


two things

Two things.
First, I'm back for real for real for real! 
I have pictures to prove it!
Taylor's brother gave us a tower, and as a late wedding gift/birthday gift/just being super nice gift, a secret someone got us a big ol' monitor!
It's big enough to double as a tv screen! 
We can finally watch movies in our living room...instead of the "netflix machine" (Tay's old phone) in our bed...
Although, that was fun too...
Sure, I have to sit on the floor to blog, but
It's October. I love October.
Easy. I met my wonderful husband in October!

I'm excited for this month :)
I get to wear fall clothes,

 we're going to the Oregon State vs BYU game
...in our Beaver gear...shhh..
Halloween is this month,  and it's gorgeous outside..GORGEOUS
I love this month :)
I'm revamping the appearance of my blog...or trying to...so bear with me.
I wanna get back into button swaps, guest posts, the whole thing, and I really really wanna get y'all a giveaway goin!!
I wanna make some changes in my life to better others..
I wanna stop gossiping, judging, and the rest of that dumb dumb stuff that so many of us do and justify why we do it.
I wanna tell you all FINALLY about the amazing Kelsey from A Muse in Purple 
Which I will do...right now!
A while ago, I signed up for a blogger gift exchange (of sorts). 
Everyone involved (and there were many), had someone to give a gift to!
I had Kelsey :)
Well present exchange time came, and guess who got zip, nada, nothin?
that's right.
I got gypped! 
So, after the whole thing, Kelsey sent me something! She sent her blogger something AND me something :)
Cute bangles, delicious lip gloss, a travel scentsy, and more. 
What an angel!
Thank you, Kelsey!\
Sorry it took so long to say it :)

And one last thing...
I need costume ideas for Halloween..anyone???